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I received this via email forward this morning and my jaw dropped!  All I’ll say is wow and can’t wait for your thoughts on this topic.

A little long but well worth the read.

Enjoy.

It seems that an article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine by a Caucasian woman who requested a response from black men. I’m so glad she got what she asked for (and more) !!!

Dear Jamie:

I’m sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers.

I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking, educated and loving. I just don’t understand a lot of Black female’s attitudes about our relationship.

My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage.

Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don’t they look at themselves and make some changes.

I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we’re out in public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them.

Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jo nes, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius , Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes…

I could go on and on. But, right now, I’m a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don’t be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I’m wrong, Black men, let me know.

Disgusted White Girl,
Somewhere in VA

RESPONSE:

Dear Jamie:

I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl.

Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta , Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful black men.

I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why black men date white women. Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they were considered easy.

The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone Who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls.

Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our black women. We are afraid that our woman will be More successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control.

I have talked to numerous black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful black men date white women.

Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth ‘Babyface’ Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black women And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spotlight, who openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few.

I just don’t want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt , you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs.

Read your history!

It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery.

It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women were born with two strikes against them: being black and being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise!

It is because of the black women’s strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my black Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them.

Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about black women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with black women.

I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don’t you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous?

I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the black woman has.

BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children.

Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.

No offense taken, none given.

Signed,
Black Royalty

~~~~~~~~~UPDATE FROM MARENDA~~~~~~~~~~~
based on the above and the responses below

It seems to me the biggest mistake is to make sweeping generalizations and blanket statements about people. It’s one thing to have a preference and/or natural attraction but to just make assumptions and lump women into a category is nonsense.

I don’t have an issue with interracial couples. If you like it, I love it. To each his own.
Different strokes for different folks! No big deal!

What I do have an issue with is these broad generalizations being made specifically about Black women. Perhaps some of yall have been watching too much BET or TV period. Don’t Believe The Hype!

Not all Black women are:
Fat
Loud
Mean
Argumentative
Needy
Materialistic
Carry Excess Baggage

Not all Black women want:
A thug
A dope boy
A man’s money
To pop bottles in the club
To control, manipulate, and/or emasculate men

If these characteristics describe the Black women that you’ve encountered then it makes me wonder what in YOU attracts these type of women! Could it be your own excess baggage? deep seeded issues? low self esteem? shallowness? self hate? F.E.A.R. (False Expectations Appearing Real)?

I am a Black woman married to a Black man and I treat my husband like the king that he is…I put it down from the kitchen to bedroom and every place in between, all the while putting forth every effort to be kind, tender, understanding, caring, supportive, slow to anger, and I am more than happy to let him where the pants. (see proverbs 31)

There is no power struggle, we believe in the “team work makes the dream work” philosophy…we work together in all things! We communicate openly and honestly. I don’t always get my way (but he tells me it is his pleasure to see to it that I always get what I want and need and that feeling is mutual).

The generalizations are offensive because aside from myself I personally know Black women that do not fit the charge some are making.

As for “Disgusted White Girl” I’m disgusted by her need to hear from Black men as to why White women “are so appealing and coveted” by Black men.

Why is she seeking reassurance from Black men that White women treat them better than Black women? Sounds like she has some “excess baggage” that SHE needs to deal with.

For all the Black men she finds that prefer White women, there are just as many if not more White men that prefer Black women…

Running down a list of Black celebrities with White women is sooooo ridiculous. But I’m glad she pointed it out because the flip side of that is how many Black men (no matter how fine) that work at Trader Joe’s, the plant, UPS….are getting a 2nd glance or even a date with White women????? “Disgusted White Girl” is fronting I doubt her dating standards are equal opportunity. ALL women have some type of standards… and the standards of the women dating the celebs on her list have some common denominators I shouldn’t even have to point out. That’s another discussion…

“Disgusted White Girl” has it twisted. If she’s getting dirty looks and snide remarks she needs to consider the possibility of there being something about HER that is attracting that type of attention? The tone of her letter certainly suggests that she looks down on Black women (as a woman she should know a woman’s 6th sense and intuition can pick up on such vibes). Some of the women she’s encountering probably could careless that she’s with a Black man, they probably detect and detest her attitude and body language. She didn’t mention what kind of looks she’s giving the Black women when she’s out with Black men? If its the:

“Don’t be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better”

Its no wonder. Most likely her own thoughts, expectations, and insecurities are what’s creating the drama she perceives. Black women have enough to deal with than to be worried about a “Disgusted White Girl” somewhere in VA or about the Black men that let a few bad apples spoil the bunch for them lol.

Its ok if you have a preference but not ok to generalize or bash. It is never ok to put yourself on a pedelstal and look down on others

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