This is another interesting email forward gone viral that continues to make its rounds. I have no idea what the state of the authors relationships were at the time of writing this…but I found this email forward extremely interesting for a number of reasons, one being the authors current status and all the hoopla surrounding him (I’m not going there). Perhaps you’ve seen him on TBN, The Word Network, or Youtube.
This email forward does make some very good points.
Before I post the forward, I want to share my 2cents on “Seeking Mr. Right.”
1. In my own experiences and what I’ve gathered from others, Mr. Right just shows up seemingly out of no where…you don’t have to find him, he’ll find you when you least expect it. 
2. Three of my friends were waiting for Mr. Right not too long ago… All three of them are very Spiritual. Even though they were not married, they all read and meditated on The Power of A Praying Wife. All three of them got married practically back to back within a year or so of reading that book. Is that a coincidence? I don’t think so. (I too was married within a year of reading it)…I bring this up to say, that Mr. Right might need a praying woman, (not just a woman that prays for God to send her a man…but a woman that knows the power of prayer, as well knows how to pray for her man)… Marriage is a team work makes the dream work commitment that requires a rock solid foundation held together by God and made of unconditional love (AGAPE) and then some…
Sometimes it seems that some women get too caught up in looking for what a man brings to the table. We have all of these ideas about what a man is supposed to do…which I find extremely fascinating because majority of the people I know (self included) are from broken “dysfunctional” homes… So where do our ideas of what a man should be come from? That’s a scary thought, and its an issue that we often deal with when preparing and introspecting!
There is nothing wrong with setting standards and expectations, but remember, men also have ideas about what a woman should bring to the table and they have standards and expectations too. If who is bringing what to the table is important, then one must consider what both parties bring to the table, what the union itself will bring to the table, and more importantly what God brings to the table? (Just something to think about).
Marriage goes deeper than what you bring to the table though… Good looks, beauty, appearances, status, finances, education, and goals can change at the blink of the eye. Those marriage vows say:
- For richer or poorer.
- In sickness and in health.
- Til death do you part.
That’s deep and its real. Are you ready for that? What happens if that man comes to the table with so called financial stability and then gets laid off his job, then what? (He could really use the power of a praying wife then). What happens if that man falls ill or has a terrible accident leaving him a paralyzed? (Maybe this seems far fetched to you, but it happened to Christopher and Dana Reeve).
3. When desiring Mr. Right a woman must do an honest self evaluation to make sure she’s not Ms. Wrong. I believe that preparation and introspection are absolute musts for Mr. Right to even show up. Remember that song Bag Lady by Erykah Badu? You have to make room for Mr. Right by getting rid of baggage. The only way to get rid of baggage is through serious preparation and introspection which is a Spiritual process that touches mind, body, and soul. Rather than focus on seeking Mr. Right, why not focusing on becoming Mrs. Right (thats a daily and life long work in progress lol). I guess the bottom line is a woman has to get right in order to meet her Mr. Right…
note: right does not mean perfect and isn’t possible that not every woman or man is necessarily meant to be married or is ready for marriage?
I can go on and on…but I think you understand where I’m coming from, here’s the email forward:
Subject: Pastor Jamal Bryant – “Seeking Mr. Right”
“Seeking Mr. Right”
I often warn women who are contemplating marriage to marry someone who can take care of them.
When a woman marries, it ought to be to someone who is capable of
taking her to the next level.
If she comes from poverty, there is not reason for her to get married
and still be impoverished.
The role of the man is to take her to another place.
When she gets married, she ought to dress better, drive better, live
better, and eat better, not constantly be in a struggle over where her
next meal is coming from. My grandmother used to say, “I can do bad all by
myself!”
For a woman desiring a mate, the objective, of course, would be to
find a Christian man, who’s settled, has goals, accomplishments and a
job.
But a goal-oriented and focused man can’t just be approached any kind
of way. So the woman who seeks this type of stability must make sure
that he stands out above the crowd:
1. Make sure your relationship with the Lord is strong and growing.
2. Make sure that you are presentable. Working from the inside out,
your presentation should be representative of both who you are and
whom you seek. Appearance is a reflection of how you see yourself.
3. Have the ability to hold an intelligent conversation.
4. And most importantly, allow the Holy Spirit to take control. You
don’t need to go after him. He’s going to come after you, because
after he sees and smells you and knows that you’re in his presence,
he’s going to want to know who you are!
I know there’s somebody reading this who has been chasing after the
“man of your dreams,” but God says, “Just sit still and allow patience
to have her perfect work through Me.”
Furthermore, it’s never a good idea to be too forward and too
aggressive. Attempting to win a man’s affection by jumping into bed
with him will only backfire and cause him to lose interest in ever
developing a lasting relationship. It causes him to lose respect for
you and question your character.
However, if he sees that you are dressed with quality, that you smell like you are somebody,
that you look like you’re doing fine without him, then that will attract the right attention from him.
He’ll have no choice but to give you his attention.
Stop looking so needy, climbing into bed, trying in vain to capture a man’s heart.
God woke me up in the middle of the night and said, “The same thing
that Naomi told Ruth to do is the same thing that I want them to do
for me.” God is so sick of saints coming to Him trying to get a
quickie and never romancing Him for Who he is – going to church screaming,
shouting and hollering, but hadn’t been intimate with God all week long!
Stop trying to treat God like a sugar daddy and start romancing Him with worship and praise:
“I’m yours Lord…everything I’ve got…everything I’m not!”
The God we serve, which is the God of love, demands and requires of us
foreplay before He gives us what we need. In the book of Ruth, the
mother-in-law tells Ruth, “You have to wash.” John 15:3 reminds us,
Now ye are clean through the word which I have spoken unto you. When
you sit in the Gospel of Jesus Christ, you are taking a shower. When
you hear the unadulterated Word of God, then the dirt and grime that
you’ve accumulated all week long begins to wash off of you.
Ask God to “create in you a clean heart and renew a right spirit.”
Stand in the word. Then wait upon the Lord to renew your strength.
…If God has already sent you Mr. Right, pass this on to those who
are still waiting.
