Most people will often start questioning or wondering about certain things immediately after they have finished meditating. Many of them will start wondering and questioning even while they’re right in the middle of meditating. Common questions like these will come to their – and maybe your – mind…
“Did I do what I was supposed to do?” (after they have just finished meditating.)
“Am I doing this correctly?” (while they are in the middle of meditating.)
The simple answer to all of those types of questions is… YES. You did just what you were supposed to do, and you did it exactly as you were supposed to do it, in that moment in time.
Another way to look at it is, none of those things (or questions) matter. Think of it this way… If you’re hungry, it doesn’t matter whether you eat your food with a fork, a spoon, a straw, with your hands, or any other way. The important thing is that you do eat.
How you got the food into your mouth, which angle or direction from which you delivered the food to your mouth, which hand you used, which way you were facing, or any other such details do not matter at all.
In other words, don’t worry about any of that stuff. Just be happy with the fact that you did meditate. That’s the only thing that matters.
This is another common (and valid) question that will come into most people’s mind…during, before, or even after their meditation session…
“What should I expect to see, feel, or experience while I am meditating?”
The short answer is, do not expect anything specific to happen. Because, there is no right or wrong experience.
And, if you start to wonder about, search for, or expect something specific/significant to happen, then you will be focusing on that instead of just observing.
In other words, if you start looking for something in particular, you will miss whatever else that is happening. Even if it’s nothing. (You won’t even be able to experience nothing, because you’ll be searching or expecting “something.”) So, the main idea, as shared earlier, is to simply observe… without judging, labeling, analyzing,
or even searching nor expecting for anything in particular to happen.
Just be there as an observer. Without looking for anything. Simply notice what is happening -even if nothing is happening.
Having said that, here are the three most common things that could happen…
1. As you’re paying attention to your breath, and to whatever else is going on, you may find your
mind wandering. Certain thoughts may arise in your head. And, that’s okay.
2. As you’re paying attention to your breath, and whatever else, you may gently fall into a quiet,
peaceful space where you’re simply being…and quietly observing.
3. You may fall asleep.
Again, there are no right or wrong experiences. There are just experiences. And all of them are
perfectly normal/valid experiences.
However, if you find yourself falling asleep during meditation (which you will only realize when you wake back up,) that’s okay. It simply means that your body needed the rest. If this keeps happening each time you try to meditate, it may be a sign that you’re not getting enough rest during your regular sleeping schedule, for whatever reason.
So, you may want to look into that and try to remedy it, so you can find a way to get your body enough rest.
If, during your meditation, you notice that your mind starts to wander after a while, and you become distracted with thoughts, that’s okay.
Lastly, there is a chance that you may realize you weren’t the most comfortable in the position or location where you meditated. If that’s the case, you can try to adjust accordingly.
If your clothes were too tight, wear looser ones next time. If your chair or couch wasn’t very comfortable, you could try padding it or using something else to sit on.
If your body was starting to feel fatigued, strained or in pain, you could (again) try adjusting and accommodating for that (stretching and/or relaxing prior to meditating, or whatever else works.)
And, yes, you are allowed to adjust and/or move around a bit, while you’re in the middle of meditating. Just do your best to not move around too much or too often.