What is a HATER?
To dislike intensely or passionately; feel extreme aversion for or extreme hostility toward; detest… —Dictionary
A label applied to people who are more negative than positive when discussing another person. It most commonly refers to individuals whose negativity is so extreme that it is all-consuming. However, there are various levels and forms of being a hater, ranging from completely dismissing any positive traits or actions, to merely painting a less than flattering picture by using words with negative connotations. Hating is often attributed to jealousy, but just as often, it seems to stem from some other source. —Urban Dictionary
How To Effectively Deal With Haters:
There will always be haters, it’s how YOU deal with haters that determines your walk on the living life abundantly path.
You may encounter haters at work, school, and/or even within your own family.
Rule #1
Never argue, confront, or struggle with haters. When you engage the hater, you give them the power to control and manipulate you.
- Wisdom is too high for a fool.
- Do not answer fools according to their folly, or you yourself will be just like them.
- As a dog returns to its vomit, so fools repeat their folly.
Rule #2
Kill haters with kindness. No matter what the hater does or says remember and practice The Golden Rule, treat them the way you want to be treated, despite how they treat you.
- What goes around comes around, you will reap what you sow.
- Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
- As water reflects the face, so one’s life reflects the heart.
Rule #3
Never let haters throw you off your game. Nothing pleases a hater more than to see you fail. Focus intently on achieving your goals and being the best you that you can be. Stay positive and look for the good in every situation. Think good thoughts! Expect good.
- You will attract into your life the people, ideas, and circumstances that harmonize with your dominant thoughts.
- As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.
- Success is the greatest revenge.
How Not To Deal With A Hater
Universal Anthem For Haters
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Yeah, this is how ot deal with haters!
Interesting advice,Thanks Reno!
wise words wise words
but sometimes i simply can’t control my emotions and i go on a rampage :p
anyway great advice cheers!
Oh my goodness! The little video of the lady punching someone in the face is hilarious!!
Nice to see a big black woman getting a record deal. The music industry is finally maturing(?)
Very useful advices! Thank you!
Bravo For both the big Jill, AND the lady who pop the teacher that called her daughter a slut in the nose.
Yes Jill (and you) have the best idea BUT the weasel you chose to picture first had it coming !
James
The hater/hitter in the video is what the world needs less of! Your message has a foundation!!
WOW! The Punching photo is so Hilarious! HAHAHAHA…LOL!
This is a very old wisdom ands it’s still very useful till now. Love it. Thanks!
Alex Liu
“Wealth comes as a result of Generously Contributing and Allowing Other to do the same to you, not Giving with the expectation of Taking!”
http://secretsofunlimitedwealth.com
AMEN! My heart is heavy from dealing with “haters,” who seem to be everywhere, stealing your emotions, your goodness, etc. This is definitely the way to go. Love, to all you haters; hope you get a life at some point, besides being a “hater,” that is….
T-H-A-N-K Y-O-U for WHOSOEVER posted this! I NEEDED to hear that, and I LOVE Jill Scott anyway, but I had not heard this song! IT’S TRUE!! That’s how I came to this site ANYWAY. I get tired of Satan coming at me through a pair of people who I wonder are actually people, or just straight up demons. I know that God is in control, and He can put favor in the hearts of those who He wants you to have favor from, and therefore He can do the opposite too. It’s hard though, but what would the reward be if it weren’t?
I THANK you for your SCRIPTURAL ADVICE. Believers are commanded to OBEY/LOVE God, and be made perfect, and into the image of God, reflecting Jesus. Jesus makes it clear, VERY clear that we are to L-O-V-E our enemies in Matthew 5:44-48, below is the King James Version (KJV):
” 44But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;
45That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.
46For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? do not even the publicans the same?
47And if ye salute your brethren only, what do ye more than others? do not even the publicans so?
48Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.
This is not something that feels easy. But if He commands us, He who is just and fair will enable us to perfectly complete His instructions.
It is still hurtful, makes my stomach sick–actually physically sick. It used to be MUCH worse, though-from one of the haters.
But I KNOW that that’s not God’s Spirit. God has a spirit of love. God is love. (“He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.”–1 John 4:8 (KJV)).
So “let not your heart be troubled, friends,” suffering from haters. You CAN get through this with Christ’s help. He gave us the Holy Spirit as our helper. Let’s pray whenever we need help following God’s commands for our life, that He HELPS us. He will. Not only us, but people EVERYWHERE, believer, non-believer, and those who claim believer.
Also, do not be surprised by the ones who are the judges, they are the haters most often. They look down their noses at EVERYONE in some way, and like mentioned on this blog, they more often than not have something negative to say. Let’s pray for our enemies, as we are commanded, and PLEASE brothers and sisters in Christ, let’s pray for each other and the EVERYONE to seek and FIND help in Christ when dealing with Satan’s attacks.
LOVE YOUR POST! THANK YOU, the TRUTHS made me feel so much better. Like a good friend, it helps to remember the TRUTH behind EVERY SITUATION and experience to put things in proper perspective, and to conquer those mountains.
Very wise words. I am surrounded by haters and negativity so much sometimes it is hard to stop myself from acting like the lady in the first picture, but like you said, sometimes it is better to focus on what our objectives are than to allow haters to consume us.
Vivian Hall at The University of Michigan is the biggest hater of all.
very tru and very effective
sometimes its hard not to feel insecure from haters but when you surround yourself with people who are positive in your life they will keep the fire in you. when being around people who are so negative in your life they can make you forget who you really are and burn that fire. instead of relying on people to make you feel secure you should always rely on yourself and love yourself so that if someone you come across doesnt it wont matter.
I love this page. Thank you so much for this. You have blessed many with true happiness. I read something in a spiritual teaching that hatred is like a gift, someone could offer it to you but you don’t have to receive it. They can keep the gift all to themselves.
Nice post…My previous thought before reading your post about hatters is they are placed in our life to tempt our patience…But you have shown to me how to threat hatters in smart way. Thanks!
Great advice and I love the way that you’ve included video examples in your post. That punch must have hurt!
It is good to see your pics with a big smile everytime I come in. Although you change those pics now and then, the only thing you didn’t change is that kindly smile on your face.
I saw that video on the national news. That lady can get a law suit for striking the other. Obviously her hat runs deep.
Son in keeping with the recommendation, instead of a lawsuit she should repond with kindness? It does not seem fair.
again some insightful advice and strategies for dealing with not so pleasant scenarios.
I don't find it hilarious at all that everyone out there seems so ignorant and clearly not mature. Goes to show, there is no such thing as an adult.
Definitely a great way to put them haters in they're place
You are an extremely positive young lady. I am trying to do the same thing on my site. I assumed that I was alone. Everything that you said is true; however when I was younger no one bothered to teach me this. I kept on bumping my head and all of my haters heads as well. It landed me in jail a couple of times, but now I know better. I see that you do too. Brilliant presentation! Check me out at: http://deedy-lifeonlifesterms.blogspot.com/.
I'm trying to do positive things, as well. I am going to subscribe to your feed right now!
Hahaha, this is awesome! Now everyone knows how to not deal with haters!
this is my new favorite site.
Thank You… im sure everyone has left a thank you in their comment. Positive reinforcement and even more so confirmation. In going through hard times, when you look to God you run across a blog site lol… crazy huh
ha! great post and I hafta admit that I really like that vidiee of the lady punching the teacher who is badmouthing her kid. like watching a train wreck I guess. either way, great advice lady!
Thanks for the three rules concise and powerful!
I have old friend that half of his conversation is about hating somebody, or some institution, is like he need to hate something. I can see how detrimental this is on his children but he still wandering why they're doing so bad in life
Wider the world
wider the desire
So keep wider "wealth beyond reason" and you will get
wider things to fulfill yourself.
I loved your positive attitude towards such things…!
I totally agree that haters are just jealous of what you have in you life. I really admire how you deal with haters and this can really help a lot to all the readers out there. I think this is such a classy and educated approach to haters we encounter in our lives. Surely a lot will benefit from this post. Having that positive attitude that you possess can greatly change hundreds of lives. These are very useful points to consider as we go through each day. Oh and great example through that video of the lady punching that other woman. That must have hurt, a lot! LOL.. Thanks and may you continue to spread your wise words and positive attitude through more postings .
thanks sooo much.. i really needed to read/hear this…
i feel much better..
that is a very funny post lol
OMG!! Love these comments of encouragement for those who are HATED!!! I actually saved this page to my favorites and on a HATER like day; I pull this page back up to reflect and be encouraged!!
THANK YOU!!! :d
love it! makes me feel much better
Now that's some great advice. I've been flamed in the past, learned, very very slowly, not to lash out and erm… turn the other cheek? Still good to get a reminder lol.
Thanks, I really needed this tonight, I really just want to go off on some haters I had to remain professional. It is so hard when really you just want to knock the hell out of someone like that lady….. I will continue to do whats right as always.Think WWJD, Sometimes you feel like you are punking out…..
Thanks for the information you have provided here…this is really great…i love to read all the stuff in this site…the site is really awesome…great job
Good stuff, very good stuff. Insightful
good thing I read your blog..I have lots of people around me who are haters..
While that clip of "dealing" with haters may feel cathartic, it is certainly not the best way. Thanks for sharing.
Nice set of rules!.. These are very useful especially for those who are surrounded by people that hate you. We must accept the fact that we cannot please everyone. So learn how to turn your haters become your motivators. ^^
Hi, really very nice advice is provided by you here. I appreciate it very much. Definitely I'll try to follow your suggestions. I want to read more about it so please keep it up in near future also.
Well, this could be very tough but anyway what I did is to avoid and don't deal with them my patience is not that strong to deal with this kind of people.