It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife.—Proverbs 25:24

We hardly ever hear about men being battered by women, it doesn’t mean that its not happening.

According to the National Institute of Justice and the Center for Disease control approximately 1.3 million women and 835,000 men are victims of domestic violence each year.

I know a woman that took a hot clothes iron and put it on a man’s bare chest. I saw her get in her car and chase him across his front lawn. I also witnessed the same woman stab the man. There were countless violent altercations between the couple and the woman was always the initiator and aggressor. After many years of abuse and violence the man eventually separated from the woman. He left the relationship with beautiful children and unmanageable hypertension. He died at age 50 from a series of complications caused bykidney failure.

Victims of domestic violence have their own reasons for staying in such dangerous relationships. Usually the abuse occurs in a cycle.

Phase 1: Tension Building
Phase 2: Incident
Phase 3: Reconciliation
Phase 4: Calm
Repeat All Phases

The cycle of abuse destroys a person physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Unfortunately, many men do not seek help because they are embarrassed, blame themselves, are in denial, don’t know where to go, and/or believe that such behavior is normal.

Violence is neither normal or acceptable.

Any behaviour which is adopted by a woman to control you, which causes physical, sexual or psychological damage or causes you to live in fear. Physical and sexual violence are the most obvious forms of violence. Pushing, biting, hitting, punching and using a weapon are all forms of violence. Forcing you to participate in sex is violence. Threats are a form of violence.

Other forms of violence include:
Unsafe driving, destroying your possessions, insulting or humiliating you publicly, lying, making you think you’re crazy or stupid, controlling your money, isolating you from friends or family, hurting your children or pets, blackmail, treating you like a servant, threatening murder or suicide, drugging you, creating a sense of impending punishment. — MenWeb

Every effort must be made to stop abuse. If you or someone you know is being abused please seek assistance quickly. The same resources that are available for battered women are available for men.

Everyone has the right to live a happy and peaceful life free from violence and abuse.

http://www.heart-2-heart.ca/men/

http://www.batteredmen.com/

http://www.safe4all.org/help/

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